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Learn to Say No!

If you want to increase your business results and income while expanding your time for rest and family, you will need to eliminate demands, obligations, and tasks that steal time and do not yield sufficient returns.

You will need to structure your business so that you direct your time, energy, and abilities only to projects, opportunities, and people that bring you the desired results for all your efforts. To successfully achieve your goals and be able to shape the lifestyle you want, you will need to become excellent at rejecting all things and people that distract you and pull you away from what is important to you.

Either you will manage your time, or it will manage you. It is a matter of personal choice. One of the best ways to regain control over your time is to learn to say no. Successful people know how to say no without feeling guilty. Most entrepreneurs are overwhelmed with all sorts of work, both that which yields results and even more that which must be done but does not bring profit. They are active but not focused. Every day requires more concentration to perform daily tasks and to deal with short-term and long-term goals.

With the advancement of communication technology, which should make our daily business and private lives easier, we sometimes feel that it complicates our lives even more. We are more accessible to an increasing number of people. They contact us by phone, mobile, pager, fax, regular mail, express mail, and email. We receive a pile of emails on our computers, laptops, and mobile phones. They leave us messages on our answering machines or voicemail. The sound of the phone, messages, or emails interrupts us in whatever we are doing. Think about how much time and concentration it takes you to return to what you were doing after a conversation. Daily, many spend a few hours just responding to messages, emails, and mail. Some cannot even go on vacation, dinner, or visit friends without their mobile ringing.

Sometimes it seems that everyone wants something from you. Business associates want your opinion on projects for which you are not responsible, clients ask you to finish the proposal you agreed on for next week today, your employees ask for your help with a report that should have already been completed, your sister calls you about your mother’s birthday celebration, your children nag you to take them to the amusement park, your best friend calls you for a beer, your neighbor asks to borrow your van to transport something, an endless stream of telemarketers asks for something from you….. You are bursting at the seams. Imagine how much more time and control you would have over your own life if you did not have to react to all unnecessary messages, read dozens or more irrelevant emails, and simply said no.

This means you need to create a strong boundary between what you want and what you do not want. One way is to make a list of things you will stop doing. By compiling a list of things you will stop doing, you bring more order, focus, and discipline into your daily work. I have also made such a list, and since I did, I have become far more effective and complete my obligations on time. Without rush and stress. I have introduced a time in my daily routine when I respond to emails and missed calls. The rest of the time while I am dedicated to daily work, writing columns, preparing training, planning business strategy, and in my free time spent with family, the phones are silenced. I don’t even need to tell you how much more productive I am. You should try it too. At first, it will be difficult for you to refuse everyone’s requests. We were raised to believe that it is rude to say no. Over time, you will realize how liberating it is. A wonderful feeling of freedom to manage your own time and life. Many successful entrepreneurs I have worked with constantly say no. No to crazy deadlines, no to bad projects, no to questionable priorities, and no to others’ limiting demands. In fact, they consider the decision to refuse something equally acceptable as the decision to agree to something.

Inga Lalić, owner of the entrepreneur center Re-forma